Do you love yourself ?

How do you see yourself?

There's an old saying: "treat others as you would like to be treated". What does this mean for those who suffer from the lack of self-love?
Before we adore other people, we must learn how to love ourselves first.Before you help others, take care of yourself first. And before we can have a truly successful relationship, we must first learn to feel love for ourselves.

You probably have already heard that we should love ourselves before loving anyone else. In fact, if we don't love ourselves at least a bit, we are not even capable of loving any other beings . Loving yourself does not mean of course being selfish or thinking you need no improvement. it means just loving and respecting the person you are; with all you flaws and qualities.

Your inner self is like a young child: he/she needs hugs and practical proofs of love. But he/she needs also to be CLEARLY told that you love him/her. And you have to sound convincing, otherwise "the child" will not trust you! Cuddle yourself with little treats from time to time. Award yourself for little and bigger achievements. Begin your day telling yourself a big, warm, well deserved "I LOVE you!" Say it loud, with a bright smile,and every time you are in front of a mirror, tell yourself, "I love you and accept you completely."

Forgive yourself: Try to forget completely all the idiotic things you've done. The pain you've experienced, the embarrassments you have suffered and the mistakes you have made in the past.It's difficult to forgive ourselves. We can be our own worst critic. But the fact is blame is a destructive emotion.

See yourself at your best. You can start your day in frustration or confidence;take your pick. We all have bad days, but it's better to begin the day in a confident mood than in a mood of frustration.image. This love is definitely not to be confused with self-adoration or narcissism. It does not mean thinking that you are better than anyone else. It means having a healthy outlook of yourself, knowing that you are a worthy human being.

People who suffer from low levels of self esteem and don't care for themselves enough are often likely to be exposed to depression. Their relationships, their job, their physical health and whatever happens to them is negatively affected by their emotional issues. The only way to overcome this is letting yourself know how much you love you!.

What we really need is to learn to love ourselves. No one else can make us feel joy or sadness, these are feelings that are completely within our own control. Every day we as individuals make a choice to be happy and content with ourselves, or to beat ourselves up and be sad for the traits we lack.

Loving yourself is in fact all about embracing and accepting yourself who that you are, despite your faults, failures. Nobody is perfect and we all make mistakes one time or another.

To love yourself means to accept yourself as you are, to respect your beliefs and your body, understanding you and not trying to be someone else, having a positive self-image. You would begin loving yourself when you stop rejecting yourself.

To love yourself means getting rid of those unnecessary and useless comparisons of ourselves with other people. Ask yourself, if we try comparing ourselves to anybody else, what can we get or benefit from this? Not only this can weaken our self-image and underestimate our greatest qualities and assets, it also makes us seem as if we're lower than others and we have to live up to them. Self-respect and respect for others are just some of the qualities found in people who truly like and value themselves.Self-harm and self-destruction certainly are not parts of the qualities to love yourself.

True confidence comes from accepting ourselves as we are, recognizing that no one is perfect, and loving ourselves completely.when we recognize this we are capable of spreading our love among people around us.

What do you know about the NLP?

What is NLP?

NLP is defined in the Oxford English Dictionary as "a model of interpersonal communication chiefly concerned with the relationship between successful patterns of behaviour and the subjective experiences (esp. patterns of thought) underlying them" and "a system of alternative therapy based on this which seeks to educate people in self-awareness and effective communication, and to change their patterns of mental and emotional behaviour".

NLP means Neuro-Linguistic Programming, a name that involves the three most influential components in producing human experience: neurology, language and programming. The neurological system regulates how our bodies function, language determines how we interface and communicate with other people and our programming determines the kinds of models of the world we create. Neuro-Linguistic Programming describes the basic relationship between mind (neuro) and language (linguistic) and how their affect our body and behavior (programming).

Let’s break down the name just a bit so you’ll understand the foundations before moving on. “Neuro” refers to the mind and how it influences and controls the body. It is much more than just the physical brain; rather, it is the way that the brain affects the body on both conscious and subconscious levels.
“Linguistic” refers to the way a person uses language (words, tone, statements, questions, etc.). Language is a powerful window into what a person thinks, and by observing a person’s language, it is possible to discover a great deal about him or her.
The last part of the name – “Programming” – creates confusion when it is not correctly defined. This part of NLP is not about programming a person to think certain things or do things a certain way, or feel a certain way. Instead, programming is the process of examining the patterns and thinking a person uses habitually (their programs) and how they affect that person’s life. Everyone has their own programs, but many people simply aren’t aware of them and the impact they have.

From this point we can say that a key element of NLP is that we form our unique internal mental maps of the world as a product of the way we filter and perceive information absorbed through our five senses from the world around us.
Neuro: Each individual has established their own unique mental filtering system for processing the millions of bits of data being absorbed through the senses. Our first mental map of the world is formed of internal images, sounds, tastes and smells that form as result of the neurological filtering process. The first mental map is called ‘First Access’ in NLP.
Linguistic: We then assign personal meaning to the information being received from the world outside. We form our second mental map by assigning language to the internal images, sounds and feelings, tastes and smells, thus forming everyday conscious awareness. The second mental map is called the Linguistic Map (sometimes known as Linguistic Representation)
Programming: The behavioural response that occurs as a result of neurological filtering processes and the following linguistic map.

Using the Power of Your Unconscious Mind

Our unconscious mind has a far greater influence and can accomplish far more than the conscious. NLP practitioners make the unconscious conscious. They are more consciously aware of what they do unconsciously. This gives them the power of managing their personal development in a way that enables hem to realize their true potential.

NLP in simple words

* NLP is the psychology of excellence and the technology of achievement and success.

* NLP is a pragmatic school of thought that addresses the many levels involved in being human.

* NLP is a multi-dimensional process that involves strategic thinking and an understanding of the mental processes behind behavior.

* NLP is the practice of understanding how people organise their thinking, feeling, language and behaviour to produce the results they do.

* NLP is a process of continually discovery new ways of thinking and working. It is a process of continuous learning and growth and is key to deep personal development.

* NLP is about self-discovery, exploring identity and mission. NLP is not only about competence and excellence,it is about wisdom and vision.

* NLP is a popular and effective approach to personal growth and development. It is practical and behavior based, which makes it relatively simple to teach and put into practice. The techniques can be used by anyone who knows them as a powerful tool for improving lives.


Main Benefits of Using NLP

* NLP provides people with a methodology to model outstanding performances achieved by geniuses and leaders in their field.

* NLP provides tools and skills for the development of states of individual excellence.

* NLP explores how we think and feel and models excellence in every walk of life.

* Using NLP at work and in your personal life will sharpen your skills and boost your achievements. The theories and practices of NLP will help you discover what makes some people excel in all aspects of their lives, and will enable you to do the same.

* By using NLP you can give yourself more conscious choice over what you do and the way you act.

The awareness of how you do what you do is the key to self-management and influence. You can't control people or events, but you can manage our response to them. Your skill and your ability to manage yourselves directly affect the extent to which we achieve your goals.

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